IMECOT 1-6 DEC 2021
International Meeting of Couple Therapy 2021
Ediția a doua a întâlnirii internaționale pe tema terapiei de cuplu. IMECOT reunește într-un unic și grandios eveniment colegii și colegele de breaslă care lucrează cu cupluri din toată lumea. Include 6 zile de training online non-stop, totalizând 79 de ore de formare pe tema terapiei de cuplu, grupate în 3 prelegeri și 35 de seminarii, în prezența unor experți de renume internațional. Limba de desfășurare a evenimentului este limba engleză.
Ce este IMECOT?
Ce cuprinde cursul?
Cursul se desfășoară online, continuu, pe parcursul a șase zile și cuprinde câte trei prelegeri și 35 de seminarii în total unui număr de 41 de experți. Mai jos vei regăsi titlurile prezentărilor ce vor avea loc în 1-6 decembrie 2021. Acestea se vor desfășura cu posibilitatea de participare live online, urmând ca ulterior să poată fi consultate și offline, pentru un timp limitat la 3 luni de la încheierea evenimentului.
- 6 zile de training online non-stop
- 3 prelegeri și 35 de seminarii susținute de experți internaționali
- 79 de ore de formare specifică în terapia de cuplu
PROGRAMUL EDIȚIEI 2021
MIERCURI 1 DECEMBRIE - Prelegerile
- 10 - 13 | Luigi Cancrini - prelegere „Trauma separării”
- 13.30 - 16.30 | Maurizio Andolfi - prelegere „Copilul ca resursă în terapia de familie și de cuplu”
- 17 - 20 | Umberta Telfener - prelegere „Dansul relațional, cum să favorizezi schimbarea”
JOI 2 DECEMBRIE - Seminarii
- 10 - 12 | Pietro Barbetta - Aspectele psihologice ale infertilității atunci când membrii cuplului sunt „fertili”
- 12 - 14 | Angela Abela - Valoarea relației de cuplu într-un context global: semnificația interculturală a iubirii și intimității
- 14 - 16 | Romina Coin - Analiza de cuplu, analiza în cuplu. Un dispozitiv pentru lucrul asupra intersubiectivității
- 16 - 18 | Ulrich Clement - Negocierea diferenței: cum să creați un obiectiv comun între partenerii aflați în conflict
- 19 - 20 | Carmen Knudson Martin - Justiția relațională în terapia de cuplu - integrarea contextului socio-politic
- 20 - 22 | Heather B Macintosh - Terapia de dezvoltare a cuplului pentru traume complexe
- 22 - 24 | Travis Heath - În căutarea narațiunilor opuse: Embodied Other Interviews (EOI) în terapia narativă de cuplu
VINERI 3 DECEMBRIE - Seminarii
- 10 - 12 | Piergiuseppe Vinai - Self Mirroring Therapy, o nouă strategie pentru problemele străvechi în terapia de cuplu
- 12 - 14 | Giulio Cesare Zavattini - Funcția intersubiectivă a viselor în psihoterapia psihanalitică de cuplu
- 14 - 16 | Robert Taibbi - Terapie scurtă pentru cuplurile aflate în criză
- 16 - 18 | Robert Emery - Ce trebuie să știe terapeuții de cuplu despre divorț
- 18 - 20 | Karen Skerrett - O abordare pozitivă a terapiei de cuplu: Folosirea poveștilor pronumelui „noi” pentru a stimula conexiunea, reziliența și creșterea
- 20 - 22 | Katherine Hertlein - Cupluri cu agende diferite: evaluare și tratament
- 22 - 24 | Avigail Lev - Terapie comportamentală de cuplu: tratarea partenerilor cu trăsături narcisiste
SÂMBĂTĂ 4 DECEMBRIE - Seminarii
- 10 - 12 | Michele Spaccarotella - Cuplurile „digitale”
- 12 - 14 | Mary Morgan - Starea de spirit a unui cuplu: reflecții și lucru cu cuplurile dintr-o perspectivă psihanalitică
- 14 - 16 | Patricia Papernow - Ajutând cuplurile provenind din familiile vitrege să facă față (marilor) lor dificultăți.
- 16 - 18 | Arthur Nielsen - Probleme sexuale frecvente în terapia de cuplu
- 18 - 20 | David Treadway - Tratarea eficientă a cuplurilor: un ghid practic pentru terapia de cuplu colaborativă
- 20 - 22 | Wade Luquet - Căsătoria ca terapie: modelul Imago în acțiune
- 22 - 24 | Douglas Snyder - Ajutând cuplurile să depășească trădarea
DUMINICĂ 5 DECEMBRIE - Seminarii
- 10 - 12 | Emiliano Lambiase - Consiliere de cuplu în dependența sexuală
- 12 - 14 | Gregorio Mazzonis - Căsătoria în tsunami-ul adoptiv: capcane și reziliență
- 14 - 16 | Daniel Giunti - Sexualitatea în cuplu: semnificații, implicații, clasificare și intervenții
- 16 - 18 | Angela Skurtu - Ajutând cuplurile să depășească infidelitatea
- 18 - 20 | Anthony Chambers - O abordare trans-teoretică pentru evaluarea distresului de cuplu: un model cu patru sesiuni
- 20 - 22 | Nathan Hardy și Adam Fisher - Atașament vs. Diferențiere: dileme și posibilități integrative
- 22 - 24 | Joan Lachkar - Cupluri cu tulburare de personalitate borderline/narcisistă: o perspectivă psihanalitică
LUNI 6 DECEMBRIE - Seminarii
- 10 - 12 | Anna Mascellani - Când cuplul este inseparabil: terapia divorțului blocat
- 12 - 14 | Paula Hall - Lucrul cu cupluri și dependența sexuală / (de) pornografie
- 14 - 16 | Nicola Carone - Trecerea la parentalitate în cuplurile homosexuale care concep prin procreare asistată medical
- 16 - 18 | Diane Gehart - Mindfulness și Acceptare în terapia de cuplu
- 18 - 20 | Nancy Gambescia - Tratarea infidelității: abordarea inter-sistemică
- 20 - 22 | Andrew Christensen - Strategii pentru promovarea acceptării emoționale și a schimbării comportamentale în Terapiea Comportamentală Integrată de Cuplu
- 22 - 24 | Kevin A Fall și Justin Levitov - Consiliere pentru cuplu în tandem: o alternativă unică de tratament pentru cuplurile aflate în conflict
Abilități și deprinderi dobândite
|Scop||Actualizarea bunelor practici și eficientizarea practicii în cazul psihoterapiei cuplului|
|Tip||online (mai întâi live-interactiv), iar ulterior offline (fiind disponibile înregistrări pe perioadă determinată)|
|Durată||6 zile, 79 ore|
Module - în limba engleză
Title: The trauma of separation
Abstract: Coming soon
Title: The child as a resource in family and couples therapy
Abstract: When a child presents a psychosomatic, behavioural or learning disorder, it is common practice to make a diagnostic assessment and, if necessary, refer them for individual therapy and perhaps pharmacological treatment. The main idea that has guided my clinical work over 50 years is very different and takes shape from the conviction that a childhood disorder is always a family problem and that therefore a child cannot be observed as an island, detached from his or her fundamental emotional ties. Unfortunately, family therapy has largely built its theories and techniques on adult-centred thinking and has regarded the child-problem more as an object to be observed than as a competent subject. Thus it is often the case that during the session we talk mainly about the child and his problems and much less with him about his family. In this presentation I would like to show how to give voice to the child in the session, being guided by his symptoms as relational indicators, in order to understand family dynamics on a multigenerational level. In this way, the child becomes a sort of relational bridge to explore severed family ties, intergenerational conflicts or couple contrasts. The aim of this exploration is to encourage a transformation in the family and the couple and to allow the child to free himself from his disorders.
Title: Relational dance, how to promote change
Abstract: This in-depth meeting on couples therapy will start from the participants' questions in order to examine the strategies and techniques that season systemic practice, which is always organised from the point of view of complexity. It is systemic thinking that dictates the theme; techniques and strategies are like the condiments that allow a dish to be refined. When to do and not to do something, how to decide how to intervene, which themes to choose, when to repeat a question, who to ask, what to ask and why, are all legitimate questions that we will try to unravel.
Sonia Gerosa and Giuseppe Bertolini
Title: Couple crisis: how to reactivate the energies of Physis at the service of the individual and the bond?
Abstract: When we choose a partner, we are attracted both by the joints that make him possible co-protagonist of repetitive relational patterns, and by the intuition that he is a possible ally towards desired and still unexplored directions. Our way of reading the crisis situations of the couples we meet is based on this polarity, and it is in this sense that we conceive the intervention. We present a model of work with couples according to the approach of Transactional Analysis in its psychoanalytic and phenomenological roots, integrated with the systemic-relational perspective. We will introduce some theoretical tools based on thirty years of experience in working with couples at the Couples Service of the Centre for Psychology and Transactional Analysis in Milan, headed by Dr Evita Cassoni, in particular: structure and boundaries of the couple, evolutionary cycle in the life of the couple, blocking mechanisms within repetitive patterns and new potentials in the choice of a partner. We will show how we use these interpretations in a four-person setting, with two therapists, a man and a woman, to accompany the partners in the elaboration of expectations and images of themselves and the couple towards updated forms, and to reactivate evolutionary possibilities. The direction of the work can be drawn towards a more mature interdependence or also towards the need for a goodbye. The object of the care process is the couple as a relational system, a dynamic organism with its own identity and vitality, the centre of the family system and the cell of the social body. For us, helping to renew the motivation of the original commitment and to put the energy of the bond back into circulation also means promoting well-being in a broader system. Consistent with our intersubjective approach, we have chosen to co-host the webinar, to allow us to see the collaboration of the working couple at work, and we would like to involve the audience in the reflection by presenting some simple exercises and clinical situations, proposing to read them with the theoretical tools presented.
Title: The significance of the couple relationship in a global context: The meaning of love and intimacy across cultures
Abstract: This webinar examines the significance of the couple relationship in the 21st century. It highlights global trends and cultural variations that are shaping couple relationships with a special focus on the meaning of love and intimacy across cultures. The webinar will discuss the challenges that today’s couples are facing and explores innovative ways of supporting them and their families in therapy and in the community.
Title: Couple analysis. A system for working on inter-subjectivity.
Abstract: Psychoanalytic interventions with couples is a research field of great interest for the development of a relational understanding of the human subject. What is the couple relationship? How best to read what happens between partners in both ordinary situations and moments of crisis? What is the relationship between the individuality of the partners and the relationship they establish with each other? Through a discussion of the epistemological and theoretical aspects underpinning the couple point of view, the dynamics governing the interaction between two human beings united in a couple's bond will be explored as they each deal with their own life process.
Title: Negotiating the difference - how to create a common goal with dissenting partners
Abstract: The webinar will present and discuss the logic and therapeutic processing of coming to a common goal when the partners disagree.
Carmen Knudson Martin
Title: Relational justice in couple therapy
Abstract: Everyone wants to be loved, to feel valued, heard, and respected. This is at the heart of my work as a couple therapist. Whatever the presenting issues or symptoms, these deeply personal core concerns are directly related to larger socio-political contexts. Most therapists know sociocultural systems influence their clients’ lives, but few know how to connect the dots between what happens in the wider society, interpersonal neurobiology, relational processes, and client well-being. As a result, they inadvertently reinforce societal-based power differences, with detrimental effects. Socio-Emotional Relationship Therapy (SERT) is a well-established socio-culturally attuned clinical model that transforms destructive power imbalances and creates relational possibilities based on equity and mutual support. It may be applied as a primary framework or integrated with other approaches. This workshop is an introduction to this innovative, socially responsible approach with video examples.
Heather B Macintosh
Title: Developmental Couple Therapy for Complex Trauma
Abstract: This presentation will provide an introduction to the Developmental Couple Therapy for Complex Trauma (DCTCT) model. This model was developed to address the specific challenges faced by couples who have experienced trauma. The first stage of DCTCT focuses on psychoeducation, helping couples understand the impacts of traumatic and stressful events on areas of functioning with a specific focus on couple and family functioning. The second stage of the model focuses on the acquisition of skills with a significant focus on the development of emotion regulation capacities through exercises, activities and couple focused interventions. The third stage focuses on processing trauma, exploring the impact of the past on the present in complex cycles of couple distress known in DCTCT as Dyadic Traumatic Reenactments, working on the sexual relationship and building attachment security in the couple. The fourth stage, consolidation, brings the couple back from living immersed in trauma in their lives and relationships and into life in the present, helping them continue to build intimacy, capacities for problem solving and conflict resolution, as well as learning how to live within the steady flow of life in the present without carrying the heavy weight of trauma around in their daily lives.
Title: In Search of Counter Stories: Embodied Other Interviews in Contemporary Narrative Couples Therapy
Abstract: Internalized Other Questions (IOQ) were developed in the 1980’s by David Epston and Karl Tomm. The practice invites a person to answer questions as though they are a family member or loved one. This way of working has largely been abandoned in modern narrative ways of working. This workshop will demonstrate a modern revival of the practice of IOQ called Embodied Other Interviews (EOI) situated within a framework of Contemporary Narrative Therapy. The core tenets of counter-storying within Contemporary Narrative Therapy will be discussed, and a practice story will be used to show the practice of EOI in action.
Title: The Self Mirroring Therapy, a new strategy for old problems in couple therapy
Abstract: One of the greatest challenges in couple therapy is helping subjects to decentralise and observe the relationship dynamics from the partner's point of view. New technologies and video recording techniques now allow patients to "see themselves from the outside" and observe their behaviour from a new perspective. This is where the technique of Self Mirroring Therapy comes from, a method that, through video recording of the patient's emotions, allows him/her to observe his/her own emotions and discover the effect these have on the partner. Moreover, the vision of one's own emotional “face” activates the patient's mirror neurons and allows him to recognise his own emotions. This neural network is usually used to recognise the emotions of others and is often more efficient than the limbic system, which is responsible for recognising one's own emotions from the inside. During this webinar the theoretical principles behind Self Mirroring Therapy will be explained and its practical use in couples therapy will be demonstrated.
Giulio Cesare Zavattini
Title: The intersubjective function of dreams in psychoanalytic couple psychotherapy
Abstract: Today's psychoanalysis has highlighted that dreams should not be seen so much as texts to be deciphered, but as a way to get in touch with one's own emotions and with the various states of the self; a means to expand one's knowledge of oneself and of the relationships in which we are involved in. "Telling a dream" in psychoanalytic couple psychotherapy should be seen as an intersubjective, experiential and co-constructed phenomenon between the participants in the session rather than as a "thing" brought from outside by the dreamer. Re-telling the dream gives an insight into the various states of the dreamer's self, and also into how the partner and his/her inner world fitted into the inner world of the other and what role was assigned to it. This can be called 'bonding dreams', or the dream as an expression of a 'fine-tuning' of the 'Sense of US'. Secondly, the telling of a dream exerts an emotional pressure on the partner who hears the dream, on the analyst, and on the atmosphere of the session, it is an emergent property of the session. The aim of the seminar is to address dream telling as an intersubjective event, and secondly to consider the clinical use of dreams in couple psychotherapy.
Title: Brief therapy with couples in crisis
Abstract: Statistics in the US indicate that most couples only attend a few sessions of therapy, and a majority of them at the time of contact feel that they are in a state of crisis. If you are to be effective with such couples, you need to hit the ground running. In this 2-hour course, we’ll discuss how to do exactly that – how to quickly set goals and shape the first session, how to quickly build rapport and assess, how to develop treatment maps for common presenting problems, how to use homework to facilitate progress. Using an action-oriented, behavioural approach, we’ll walk through the opening sessions, talk about what to do, but more importantly what not to do to maximize your effectiveness.
Title: What Couple Therapists Need to Know about Divorce
Abstract: This presentation will provide an overview of the key issues that couple therapists need to be aware of and potentially address when therapy ends in divorce. Divorce is sometimes the best outcome for struggling couples, and a therapist's ability to help does not end when a marriage breaks down.
Title: A Positive Approach to Couple Therapy: Using 'We' Stories to Foster Connection, Resilience and Growth
Abstract: This webinar presents a unique method for uncovering positive potential within committed relationships. Utilizing a strengths-based approach and drawing upon both clinical and research findings of the ongoing project "Couple Stories", I will describe how We-Stories-created, recovered and made anew-provide essential elements of connection. I will detail ways to help partners cultivate a "We" (team) consciousness which has been found to confer numerous health and coping benefits.. Illustrated with numerous case examples that reflect a range of contemporary couple experiences, I will detail step by step strategies, and the integration of exercises, questionnaires and interview techniques that catalyse hope, mobilize stuck spots and cultivate a mutuality that will thrive over a lifetime of partnership.
Title: Mixed agenda couples: assessment and treatment
Abstract: Couples therapy is difficult in the best of circumstances when members of the couple are committed to staying together. All too often, however, couples vacillate in their commitment to the relationship as well as in their commitment to the therapeutic process. The purpose of this workshop is to introduce the participants to discernment counseling developed by Bill Doherty. Participants will learn how the key differences between discernment counseling and traditional couples therapy. They will also learn how to recognize mixed agenda couples (one partner committed to the relationship; the other partner unsure) and when to enact discernment counseling over traditional couples therapy.
Title: Behavioral Couples Therapy: Treating Partners with Narcissistic Traits
Abstract: This webinar will present an innovative approach that integrates Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Schema Therapy to work with couples where one or both partners have narcissistic traits. The webinar will describe how to use the Schema Questionnaire as a diagnostic tool to identify possible traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and how to apply behavioral interventions to work with these couples. The webinar will help you recognize signs of narcissistic abuse in relationships including how trauma bonding, Stockholm Syndrome, and cognitive dissonance keep partners stuck in abusive dynamics and how to break these cycles of abusive by working with couples towards changing these dynamics or ending the relationship. You will learn how to recognize the behavioral coping mechanisms that individuals with NPD present with including gaslighting, reverse victim offender, love bombing, blame shifting, triangulating, and more; as well as how to work with partners to assess empathy levels, willingness, and capacity to change. Finally, you will learn specific behavioral techniques including Nonviolent Communication, values clarification, Reverse DARVO, empathy assessment, behavioral experiments, assertiveness training, self-care consequences, mindfulness, and detached empathy to help partners break the cycle of abuse. The webinar will provide a conceptual framework, experiential exercises, and role-plays to help participants apply a behavioral model to work with couples who are stuck in narcissistic relational dynamics. Learning Objectives 1. Utilize the Schema Questionnaire to identity traits of Narcissistic Disorder 2. Understand the formulation of how partners get stuck in abusive relational dynamics 3. Apply behavioral interventions to work with couples with narcissistic traits.
Title: “digital” couples
Abstract: The advent of the digital age has profoundly changed the way relationships are started, dealt with, and managed. This webinar aims to describe how online couples are born, continue and end. The convenience and speed generated by new technological devices can provide many relational opportunities, but also generate relational imbalances with the reality that surrounds us. The presentation will cover online courtship, dating apps and sexting coupled with statistical data and clinical vignettes. The webinar’s objective is to provide a space for reflection and aid in understanding how psychologists and therapists can best orient themselves in today's hyper-connected world.
Title: A Couple State of Mind: thinking about and working with couples from a psychoanalytic perspective
Abstract: In this webinar I will describe a psychoanalytic understanding of the couple relationship that has developed within Tavistock Relationships, London, over the last 70 plus years. I will discuss the complex unconscious interplay between the two people in a relationship, their internal object relations, unconscious phantasies, conflicts, anxieties and defences and how these interact with another psyche and create something new. I will suggest that the concept of a 'couple state of mind' guides the therapist and can enable development in the couple.
Title: Helping Couples in Stepfamilies to Meet Their (Big!) Challenges
Abstract: Couples in stepfamilies (or “blended families” as Americans often call them) come together expecting to make a new loving family. All too often, however, these couples find themselves constantly divided over parenting issues, facing unhappy, “resistant” children, disagreeing about everything from basic values to the “appropriate” cost of a pair of sneakers, and caught in toxic tangles with ex-spouses. Dashed hopes are all too often accompanied by painful and discouraging cycles of shame and blame. Meanwhile children are often left feeling quite misunderstood and alone. The good news is that four decades of research and clinical experience tell us what works, and what does not work, to meet these challenges. However, many of the pathways to success are fundamentally different from a first-time family. Despite the fact that a very high percentage of couples come together with children, few clinicians receive even the most basic training in therapy with stepcouples. This workshop will describe some all too common “easy wrong turns” for both couples and clinicians. You will learn to recognize, and intervene effectively with, five major challenges stepcouples face. Dr. Papernow will share practical, immediately applicable tools on three different levels: Psychoeducational, interpersonal, and intrapsychic/family-of-origin.
Title: Common Sexual Problems in Couple Therapy
Abstract: Sexual problems are extremely common in couple therapy. Most couples seeking therapy have diminished or stopped their sexual intimacy. While some identify sexual problems as chief complaints, in most cases sexual concerns emerge in therapy, embedded in other issues. While some sexual problems resolve with overall relationship improvement, others require specific attention. Most clients have trouble talking about their sexual lives, and many therapists are anxious about how to engage such topics. This workshop will help therapists address the most common sexual issues in couple therapy:
• The importance of sex and the challenges of talking about it
• Useful questions for a sexual history
• Diminished or discrepant sexual desire
• A partner’s past experience of sexual trauma
• Sexual script incompatibilities and paraphilias
• Porn and compulsive sexual behavior
• How to recharge satisfying sex once other things are better
The workshop is grounded in Dr. Nielsen’s approach to couple therapy, emphasizing interpersonal process and integrating systemic, psychodynamic, and behavioral/educational principles. We will discuss case examples from his extensive practice experience.
Title: Treating Couples Well: A Practical Guide to Collaborative Couple Therapy
Abstract: Couples often struggle in therapy with having too many issues to tackle in too little time. Luckily, you can help couples design their own treatment plan—right from the first session. In this workshop, you will learn a collaborative process to help couples to decide together whether and when to work on making changes in the here and now, or focus on healing wounds from the past, or explore family-of-origin dynamics. This model gives couples ownership of “their” therapy, rather than requiring them to submit to a therapist’s agenda. We will address how to help couples develop a collaborative plan for treatment in the first interview, offer couples a variety of techniques to work on communications, behavior changes, problem solving, and sexual intimacy, provide an amends-and-forgiveness protocol for resolving past wounds from issues like infidelity, substance abuse, and betrayal.
Title: Marriage as Therapy: The Imago Model in Action
Abstract: Couple relationships typically have their start is romantic bliss, and so many end in a painful struggle. What brings about this dramatic change? Can the power struggle be used to teach the couple how to change the struggle into passion, safety, and healing? This workshop is based on Imago Relationship Therapy and will offer some theoretical as well as practical means to help couples understand that the conflict in their relationship is “growth trying to happen”. Participants will:
1. Receive a basic overview of Imago theory
2. Be presented with at least one practical tool utilized by Imago therapists
3. Understand how to create emotional safety in the couple session and utilize safety to deepen couples emotional understanding of the other.
Title: helping couples to overcome betrayal
Abstract: This webinar will teach participants an integrative approach for helping couples to rebuild trust and intimacy after an affair. This intervention addresses the traumatic impact of infidelity and promotes interpersonal forgiveness. Webinar participants will learn how to contain the initial traumatic impact of infidelity by re-establishing individual and relational equilibrium, promoting self-care, and minimizing destructive exchanges between partners. The webinar will emphasize specific techniques for restoring trust and rebuilding intimacy by helping partners to gain a comprehensive understanding of factors within and outside their relationship contributing to the affair. Participants will also learn interventions for promoting forgiveness and specific steps toward securing individual and relational well-being.
Title: Couple counselling for sexual addiction
Abstract: This webinar will discuss the negative consequences and the main challenges posed to the couple by the discovery of sexual addiction
Title: Marriage during the adoption tsunami: pitfalls and resilience
Abstract: Adoptive parenthood is certainly more complex than biological parenthood because of aspects intrinsically linked to adoptive ties. Consequently, the marital relationship is also more severely tested. Based on this consideration, and on the fact that a good marital relationship is an important protective factor for the children involved, it is understandable that a "sufficiently secure" marital relationship plays a central role for us therapists of adoptive families. Although requests for "pure" couples therapy in the field of adoption are rather rare, very often the parental issues of these families conceal couple problems that must be adequately considered and treated even if they are not part of the explicit request of the spouses. This webinar aims to illustrate the specific issues that an adoptive child brings to the parent relationship that, like a domino effect, can cause conjugal "detonations". In addition, suggestions will be made on how to deal with these issues within our model of taking care of adoptive families.
Title: Sexuality in the couple: significance, implications, framework and interventions
Abstract: This webinar will address what is meant by sexuality and what role this aspect plays in the life of individuals and couples. Physical intimacy is kept aside, taken for granted, analysed in a superficial and evasive way too often, even by mental health professionals. Together, we will see how sexuality should be investigated, what the main problems reported in our studies may be, and what they may lead to. Often vicious circles are created: they start from the sexual sphere and spill into "non-sexual" intimacy, resulting in a gradual estrangement between partners. Finally, the webinar will discuss the most suitable types of intervention.
Title: Helping Couples Overcome Infidelity
Abstract: In this presentation, I explain milestones that couples need to cover in order to work through infidelity. Cases of infidelity are commonly reported to be the hardest problems to treat. The milestones I cover come from my book, "Helping Couples Overcome Infidelity: A Therapist's Manual." (Routledge, 2018). These milestones include: Reducing the crisis; Acknowledging the pain caused; Choosing to stay or leave the relationship; Answering difficult questions; Rebuilding trust; Redefining the relationship; Working through relationship problems; Healthy Sexuality in Long Term Relationships; Forgiveness. My favourite part of this training includes covering the hardest cases I have treated. While many clinicians like to share their triumphs, I like to help clinicians learn from my mistakes so we all can grow as clinicians. I cover worst case scenarios and offer suggestions for how I still helped couples create change.
Title: Trans-Theoretical Approach for Assessing Couple Distress: A Four Session Model
Abstract: The current trend in professional psychology education calls for trainees to be evaluated on the basis of core functional and foundational competencies (Fouad et al., 2009). Despite calls for competency-based training in couple and family psychology (CFP; e.g., Kaslow, Celano & Stanton, 2009) and couple and family therapy (Celano, Smith & Kaslow, 2010), only recently has there been attention to the knowledge-, skill-, and attitude-base that a psychologist must possess in order to achieve specialty status as a CFP (Stanton & Welsh, 2011). As the field of CFP matures and more Psychologists move towards specialization in professional psychology, training models are needed that can facilitate competencies at the specialty level. Towards that end, one of the most challenging skills for any couple therapist is being able to move from an individual to a systemic case conceptualization. Consistent with Stanton & Welsch’s (2011) couple and family psychology competencies, a thorough case conceptualization involves problem formulation, case formulation, and treatment formulation. However, this can be overwhelming for many trainees and established therapists conducting couple therapy. Thus, this presentation will present a systematic and systemic model that actualizes the case conceptualization competency. The framework presented is a four-session evaluation that includes an initial conjoint session in order to understand the couple’s relationship problems followed by separate sessions in order to understand each person’s individual and family of origin histories (Chambers, 2012; 2018). The evaluation concludes with the therapist providing feedback to the couple that is used to establish a working alliance. Although the notion of routinely meeting with each member of the couple separately as part of an evaluation is not new (Karpel, 1994), the purpose of this presentation is to describe this procedure in enough detail that audience members will be able to teach this model to their trainees and/or be able to replicate this model for use in their own practice with couples. Specifically, the presentation will describe the rationale and goals for the model, the tasks and pertinent issues to assess in each session, as well as how to present the model to couples during the initial phone call and initial visit. Finally, the presentation will discuss how to provide a dyadic/systemic conceptualization of their relationship problems, and how to make appropriate recommendations for treatment. Ethical and complicated issues such as confidentiality, how to handle secrets, and how to know when couple therapy is contraindicated will also be presented.
Nathan Hardy and Adam Fisher
Title: Attachment vs. Differentiation: Integrative Dilemmas and Possibilities
Abstract: The field of couple therapy is currently divided around the merits of attachment (co-regulation) and differentiation (self-regulation). Misconceptions and mischaracterizations of these concepts abound—hindering therapists from understanding their true meanings and clinical usefulness. The competing tenets of Sue Johnson’s emotionally focused therapy and David Schnarch’s crucible therapy are two “pure-form” models which clearly represent the polarizing clinical debate. In spite of key differences that—on the surface—present theoretical and clinical dilemmas, deeper searching into the theoretical underpinnings and research evidence of attachment and differentiation offers new possibilities for integration previously overlooked by past model developers.
Title: The Narcissistic Borderline Couple: A Psychanalytic Perspective
Abstract: This presentation is based on Dr, Lachkar's ground-breaking book, The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple. Drawing from many theoretical perspectives including classical psychoanalysis, self-psychology, ego psychology, objective relations, attachment theory, and contemporary theorists, it offers specific treatment approaches, procedures and techniques to explain the psychodynamics of the couple. It also explains how and why couples stay in painful, conflictual, destructive, never ending, relationships, traumatic bonding or what Lachkar refers to as “the dance.” It also has applicability to all kinds of couples including cross-cultural couples. It includes a six-step treatment procedure, three phases of treatment, many clinical examples, and plenty of opportunity for role play and discussion as well as concise definitions. Although its primary focus is based on treating narcissistic/borderline couples, it proceeds to illustrate how the grandiose self can invade and infect into other types of relational love bonds. Her new concept of the “V-Spot” is introduced as the epicenter of the most vulnerable area of emotional sensitivity, a product of early trauma each partner holds onto and unwittingly arouse in each other. As soon as things get shaken everything shifts, affecting memory, perception, judgment, and reality. Two special languages are presented designed for communication, “The Language of Empathology” to meet the self-object needs of the narcissist and the “Language of Dialectics” to meet the splitting mechanism of the borderline. Aside from narcissistic/borderline relations it has applicability to all kinds of couples including cross-cultural couples.
Title: When the couple is inseparable: blocked divorce therapy
Abstract: When the end of marriage comes, it leaves a sense of great personal defeat. Although maritial separation and divorce are now very common experiences, they always shake the very meaning of life for the people involved, because they produce an emotional storm that can scar the family even after many years. The number of blocked divorce situations is increasing: the persistence of a high level of conflict in the couple over time (often many years after the physical separation) prevents the natural transformation of the relationship and, consequently, the development of all the family ties involved. As in marriage, the couple is required to fulfil certain fundamental developmental tasks in divorce. The first is to safeguard parenthood when conjugality ends. But when the boundaries of the bond are ambiguous and oscillate between confused attachment and exasperated conflict, this is practically impossible: in blocked divorces, marital separation is equivalent to the end of everything. To put it simply, in blocked divorces there is no separation. This seminar will show how divorce-related suffering can be accepted and processed in a joint psychic process that helps ex-partners make sense of the end of the relationship in accordance with their own developmental processes. This is done by resuming the path of real emotional separation. In a context that recognises their feelings, competence, and their attentive gaze on their children, the therapist can help ex-partners view the other as an ally they can count on rather than an enemy that needs to be destroyed.
Title: Working with Couples and Sex/Porn Addiction
Abstract: This workshop will discuss the common pitfalls of working with couples who present with problems associated with sex or porn addiction. A three stage framework will be provided to help clients move from crisis to containment.
Title: The transition to parenting for homosexual couples that conceive with medically assisted procreation
Abstract: The seminar illustrates aspects relevant to clinical work during the transition to parenthood of female couples conceiving through sperm donation and male couples through surrogacy.
The development of parental fantasies and representations accompanying some crucial moments in the conception process, including the choice of gamete donors, the experience of contact with the pregnant woman and the choice of the (non-)biological parent, are examined from a psychodynamic perspective. Using clinical material, the identity transformations that lesbian women and gay men go through during the transition to parenthood are also analysed, in the articulation between procreative consciousness, internalised homophobia and desire for parenthood.
Title: Mindfulness and Acceptance in couple therapy
Abstract: In this workshop, participants will learn how to use mindfulness and the related concept of acceptance when working with couples. Specifically, the participants will be introduced to the philosophical and theoretical foundations as well as the evidence base related to mindfulness-informed work with couples. The presenter will also cover practical applications and interventions with couples, including mindfulness-based practices as well as using mindfulness to inform traditional couples work.
Title: treating infidelity: the intersystem approach
Abstract: Infidelity is one of the most common and difficult problems to treat in couple therapy. In this workshop an approach is presented which is both comprehensive and integrative. As such, it combines theory and techniques from both individual and systemic psychotherapy and addresses the individual, relational, contextual and intergenerational factors associated with infidelity. Infidelity is viewed as a systemic, intimacy-based problem. In addition to helping the couple, therapist vulnerabilities such as judgements, countertransference and anxiety are addressed. Finally, elements are promoted in the couple that facilitate healing, integration, and ultimately reduce their vulnerability to future betrayals.
Title: Strategies for Promoting Emotional Acceptance and Behavior Change in Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy
Abstract: Couples often struggle to create change in each other and in their relationship. Those efforts often backfire, leading to a persist/resist pattern as one pushes for specific changes and the other resists or pushes back. In this webinar, Dr. Andrew Christensen will discuss some of the challenges for creating both emotional acceptance and durable behavior change in couples and the strategies that Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy, an evidence-based treatment for couples, uses to create those changes.
Kevin A Fall and Justin Levitov
Title: Strategies for Promoting Emotional Acceptance and Behavior Change in Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy
Abstract: This workshop offers attendees an alternative approach to counseling high conflict couples that is unique and useful because it overcomes an assortment of problems inherent in the way couples are traditionally treated. While clinicians quickly recognize the limitations of traditional couples counseling and the severe sometimes dangerous problems that develop when these methods are used with so called “high conflict” couples, there are few if any serviceable alternatives. The need for an alternative inspired us to create and refine a protocol that we refer to as Tandem Couples Counseling (TCC). The presentation will not only cover the implementation of the core of TCC, but also provides detailed information on each step of the process, including the most vital and overlooked aspect: How to build, maintain, and use the co-therapy relationship as an agent of change.